Here are two exercises. This time I leave out the examples because the answers will be very much your own, and examples might be misleading.
Exercise 6: List some problems in your life, for which you want to blame yourself or somebody else. What is the problem, who do you want to blame, and why do you want to blame?
The idea behind this exercise is to get the blaming issues out of your head and onto the paper. Once they are out of your head, you can stop the blaming and focus on the present and future.
Exercise 7: For each of these problems, answer these four questions: What is the current situation? How should it be in the future? What can you do on your own to change the situation? Which help do you need from others?
The last question points forward to the next Lean Self principle. It is absolutely OK to need help. Even so, do not expect it to come without your request.